The Trap of The Never Lie
Retrain Your Speech To Produce Abundance and Move Forward
They come pouring out like water from a broken faucet, quickly, easily, without restraint. These words we use. They fall off our tongues and float into the atmosphere, somehow shifting thoughts, attitudes, and perspectives. Good or bad. Life-giving or not, they become tools for building or sometimes weapons of mass destruction. They efficiently slice their way into the very fabric of our soul and begin to shape the tapestry of our lives. They can bring freedom. But, they can also damage, trap, and enslave.
Powerful little thing’s aren’t they? Words. It is true that from the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. It is also true that the power of life and death is in the tongue. So, my question is this: based off of the words you find yourself speaking most, what is the condition of your heart? Are the things you find yourself saying positive, loving, kind, wholesome, pure, and of good report? Are they rooted in patience? Are they filled with grace? Or are they cruel, cutting, negative, slanderous, condemning, prideful, crude, bitter, or harsh? Are they filled with anger? Are they quick and rude? Are they encouraging or discouraging? Are they respectful? Are they cultivating optimism or trapping you in fear? Some things to think about.
What about the thoughts in our minds that then transcribe into words that solidify lies we choose to believe? You know what I’m talking about… those negative thought patterns that keep you on repeat. One of the most damaging and debilitating phrases I have come to find: “I never…”
We proclaim a self-fulfilling prophecy every time we utter these two words in regards to progression. It’s time to get un-stuck and release this lie and begin to move forward with courage by discontinuing the use of the following phrases:
“I could never do that.”
“I’m never going to have better.”
“I’ve never been: smart enough, pretty enough, cool enough.”
“I’m never going to: get out of debt, be able to afford ____, have a family, get married, be in a better position, find love, ______.”
“I never” is just as bad as “I can’t” the only difference is “I can’t” is often the fearful, shy, lazy little sister to “I never”. Truth is, you most likely can if you at least try, and you will, if you stay consistent and persistent. We trap ourselves with “nevers”. We put limitations on ourselves and more so, God. We essentially are saying that we don’t trust that things will ever be different so why bother even trying to believe that they can? Why hope? Why dream? Why fight? Why try? Why dare? Why believe? Why actually do?
With these thoughts and words our view gets smaller and smaller and with it, the world and countless potential opportunities. As that shrinks and grows more dim, so does our perspective of an Almighty, All-powerful God. I want to remind you, that the creator of the entire universe created you for purpose and with a plan for your life. He has bigger dreams for you than you do. It’s time to seek Him and find out what they are and ask Him to guide you to achieve them. It’s time to stop saying “Never.”
Instead, let’s change it! Let’s speak life over our circumstances and speak in faith!
“I am healed”
“I am worthy.”
“I am experiencing breakthrough.”
“I can get out of debt, and I will!”
“I trust God to provide.”
“I can accomplish this goal.”
“I will succeed.”
“I am beautiful enough, capable enough, worthy enough, smart enough.”
If you are struggling in this area, may I encourage you to seek out wise counsel or guidance. Maybe it’s time to hire that life coach, that mentor, that business coach, that counselor or therapist. Maybe it’s time to sign up for that course, enroll in that class, or join that group. Perhaps now is the time to face those fears and step out in faith. Breakthrough is always on the other side of obedience and sometimes, the greatest victories come from facing our biggest giants.
“Jesus looked at them and said, ‘With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.’” Matthew 19:26
“I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:13
“Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,” Ephesians 3:20
“He replied, ‘Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.’" Matthew 17:20